Attention | Patrice explains why we care so much about what other people think of us!

Attention | Patrice explains why we care so much about what other people think of us!

so um this video is inspired by my last video um which is a poem that i wrote called that light and um if you haven’t seen it you know pause and watch that video first um so i sent that video out to quite a few people and um one person responded to to responded to the video uh she said she said oh lord what are you talking about you know and so her her um response prompted um this video because uh this is a this is a major thing at this time where people are talking about authenticity being your authentic self there’s a lot of talk about not caring what people think of you there’s a lot of talk about you know um there is there’s a book as well cause they call the art of not giving a fudge um fudge is not really you know the word but yeah the art of not you know whatever so um you know there’s a lot of talk about these things and but yet they’re we’re seeing you know so so much you know suicide um self-harming and all kinds of behavior like that um when people are not getting the attention from the people in their lives that you know maybe it’s your mom maybe it’s your dad maybe it’s your sister maybe you know or you know like your school you’re being bullied or whatever it is you know and um you maybe you’re trying to get the wrong attention trying to get attention from the wrong types of people and then you’re hearing people saying like well you shouldn’t attention seek or you shouldn’t you know we we shouldn’t want attention or something like that or someone is attention seeker or somebody wants to be the limelight there’s all these talk about attention now everybody needs attention okay because without attention a person can never like if you have a business your business needs attention otherwise you’re not going to make any sales this is hence commercials if you have a product doesn’t matter how fantastic your product is your product is not going to make any sales if the product doesn’t get attention okay if you don’t get attention you’re not you you you as a person don’t get attention well ain’t nobody gonna make love to you and you ain’t never gonna get married and you’re never gonna have kids you won’t have a family we need attention okay and you know if there’s a baby that’s been born if the baby doesn’t get attention the baby’s gonna die okay so attention is hardcore hard wired in us to want attention to one approval to desire it to need it and so people will go through great lengths to get attention another thing about attention is when you notice that if somebody uses your name when somebody calls your name especially outside of your family let’s say like you you’re in um you’re buying a product for example and the person you know because whenever anywhere you go where they take your name and then they call you by your name it does something to you okay especially when they give you champagne as well like yeah if someone gives you champagne and then call you by your name and you’re like hello um but it’s something that people do to become to personalize to show you that you they have you know you have their attention and it causes you to spend more money okay so attention is big business okay and this is why as well when a person is rejected by their parents um that you know psychologically doesn’t does a lot of damage and again another thing is in our society like a lot of um the psychosis um not psychosis what is it called like jesus um what is it called um neurosis uh neurosis is caused by um the person not getting feedback so so they cannot connect with their external environment so because we are a input output um we’re interfacing we have to interface with the environment and if that’s not happening then we go into neurosis which is what causes depression anxiety disorder and a whole bunch of other like people can even kill themselves okay so this person who said to me um what are you talking about is somebody who’s really important in my life i don’t want to say necessarily who the person is because um even though spirit tells me to tell my stories i’m apprehensive about telling my stories because i don’t want to villainize anyone but this person when i was younger also said to me i shouldn’t hug them because i’ve got demons and that’s because i was wearing a short skirt so you can see like a lot of sometimes people don’t dislike you in fact this is a person who loves me extraordinarily and has gone through great lengths and and i’m here today because of this person you know i am here today and everything that i do and every blessing that i get um i’m sure 10 of that goes towards that person like because of of um what they did for me but but so the reason i’m making this video is because relationships are incredibly complicated and sometimes you might want everything from a person you might think that you’re entitled to certain things maybe because they’re your mother your auntie your sister um or or somebody do you know what i mean somebody significant to you you might think that you have some rights to them um actually you don’t okay don’t matter who that person is and maybe that’s hard for you to hear it but you must remember that people some people are switching off right now they’re like ooh switched off how dare you but you have to remember that people have blockages okay it could be their religion that causes them like certain blocks um where just like you know for example a person might have a a a child who’s gay and their religion doesn’t recognize that their religion thinks it’s evil and the person gonna burn in hell like your mom or dad might not be able or certain member of your family might not be able to accept you because of that and that might cause you to feel rejected okay or it might be your personality like for me for a lot of people well my family is actually really wonderful like my family loves me to pieces i’m so grateful and so lucky that i’ve got really beautiful family that really loves me and i’m also a very strong character um and my family’s super strong like all my family is out with family of titans um so so i’m really grateful this is one of the things that i i am so grateful about is how um what’s happening i’m making a video clear like really you really think i’m just gonna hear that don’t oh my god please take it away i tried to do mommy i tried to just walk in because i’ve noticed the camera was behind you you just kept on talking yeah i could put it there you could finish your video and then you could eat that’s what i tried to do my son is wonderful like he’s made me some bagel sausages like mama loves sausage anyways that’s way too much distraction for me all right anyways so so um that was khalil for those who were wondering like who was that uh anyway so um yeah people have their own beliefs okay or sometimes people are at different levels okay and so you’re not always going to get what you think you want okay sometimes it’s what sometimes um it’s your own expectations that’s damaging to you okay um and i know that we live in a world of expectations and we learned that from the whole americanized ideal you know america is like so great and so terrible all at once you know and so people feel like they are entitled to everything listen if you can’t if you have certain parents or certain people in your family um and i know it’s hard i’ve had a hard life too um but i have learned and this is what you will also learn is how to accept people for who they are and the first person you have to accept is you and then you have to look at what is it that i expected or what am i expecting from that person given the person’s character do you see what i mean this is why i laugh about certain things like well what do you expect given the person’s character and how they are um and usually i don’t share my videos with this particular person because i know what they believe in um but that video i thought was was like for anybody and i hope you’ve seen that video i would have thought it was like something for anyone to accept now i i don’t usually share my videos with everyone because um they’re not into it like there’s a lot of people who i love and they love me um back but they don’t understand my spirituality they don’t understand my view they don’t understand like my outlook on life that doesn’t stop them from loving me do you see what i mean and and things don’t stop you stop people from loving you just because they might not accept all of you it’s not all or nothing you don’t accept all of them because you don’t accept that they dislike your lifestyle and that they dislike how what you do so you’re not all accepting you see what i mean so to be accepting of people um to be accepting of people to truly accept someone is just to love them as they are and to love them where they are okay so there is um oh i just while i’m on the subject of poetry my very first poem um that i ever wrote my very first poem that i ever wrote was a competition amongst all of the schools in britain that we were um we had to it was compulsory that everybody had to enter it everyone from the age of 14 uh 14 upwards had to have to enter so i entered it and i won and when i read my poem to my mom sorry mommy hopefully my mum would see his videos um this particular video i don’t think my mom watches my video apart from the ones i share with her um i have two mummies by the way um but anyhow so my my mom said a poor i put i read a poem to my mom my mom said i poem that um so that was like one of my first like you know like like you know um so people don’t always understand you understand what’s happening or whatever and and of course it was an all right poem because it else it wouldn’t have won all of britain um and even they wanted me to become you know they wanted me to write for them to to become a writer to write for them i didn’t do it i was only 14 years old i didn’t understand the world i didn’t understand what was going on um but anyway so so you could be bitter by and i’m only sharing very simple things of my of my life i’m not interested right right now to go into like my woes um you know but my my my family are awesome um and wonderful people and you can take the good and you can learn how to accept people because this is all about you so here is um you know uh and from like my work is about healing it’s about self-healing okay you’ve got to heal yourself and then you’ve got to help others to heal but you can’t help no one to heal if you don’t heal yourself and a part of that is acceptance you’ve got to accept people as they are and accept things as they are like you’ve just got to be like okay cool beans and once you once you have the idea about acceptance then you’ve got to practice it okay you’ve got to practice it um so there is this is called the happiness triangle okay and this is a stoic um a stoic principle and so the happiness triangle is take responsibility okay this is the first thing is take responsibility and of course i can’t go in depth into this i’m only going to briefly outline it because we’re 12 minutes and a bit in um so take responsibility and that just means when we decide to take responsibility this is the very basic of taking responsibility is saying what can i do with this like you know what is my part in this and what can i do with this and what can i learn from it so that’s the very basic taking responsibility um and then this this thing gets very very very deep this alone can heal you if you really get into this and get very deep with it okay but the very foundation the very basic part is what is my role in this how can i use this um to benefit me and to heal me and to help me to grow and the next part of the triangle so this is at the top is take responsibility the next um going down is hello um when that’s going down um but not everyone never mind so the next part is focus on what you can control okay you can’t control what other people’s beliefs are you can’t control the level of another person’s growth you can’t control another person’s paradigm you can’t control any of that but you can control what’s in you so focus on what you control that’s also a buddhist um principle also and then going across this way to complete the triangle okay is live with there’s a fancy word that i can’t pronounce but it means excellence okay so live with excellence so everything you do in life you’re striving towards excellence now excellence doesn’t hate excellence doesn’t take revenge excellence doesn’t have any um [Music] it’s nothing to do with your ego excellence has nothing to do with your ego nothing to do with your pride nothing so we take we have absolutely nothing to do with the lower aspect of our nature we rise above that okay and if we can do that and if we can practice this we can really deepen our spirituality grow as a as a person and overcome absolutely anything um on any one particular subject i could go on forever but i choose not to um because ain’t nobody got the time for that um so um yeah but this is uh like you know my videos really is for introduction into and and and you know and for you to to deepen your practice or to just look at something or sometimes it just says to a person i’m thinking along the right lines here okay and you know it gives you some kind of comfort that you’re not alone so that’s what my videos are really there for um and uh if you want to know more about what i do do check out my website and um there should there will be a link in in the desc in the description malaki um and thank you so much for watching don’t forget to like don’t forget to share don’t forget to subscribe and until next time love light life
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Attention | Patrice explains why we care so much about what other people think of us!

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