EXCLUSIVE: Thomas Shares Details About His Upbringing and Mental Health Journey | Talking It Out

EXCLUSIVE: Thomas Shares Details About His Upbringing and Mental Health Journey | Talking It Out

i want to touch on that as well why don’t go back a bit uh two things one when i had mentioned like you give me you give me vibes of like mama mentality right it all makes sense your mom is a badass you know four children ceo your father you know thank you for a service a colonel an army your grandfather like you’re the youngest boy i can see where you get that competitive edge from uh but you had mentioned something that struck me you said you had to grow up early like you had two parents in a household they both make money you have older siblings why do you feel that you have to grow up early right when my dad started going on more deployments one of my big passion projects is anything with mental health i’ve personally gone through bouts of depression and i’ve had to affect my own demons but most importantly my oldest brother who’s one of my biggest role models he’s bipolar skit’s praying and when he was going through a lot of his own self-growth battles that was right when my dad was gone my dad gave back came back he had bad ptsd and living in a household where yeah when we did have our entire family together there’s there’s so much going on and with four kids and understanding that people need to be pouring into my oldest brother kyle people need to be supporting my dad and everyone somewhat on edge trying to see what’s going on i somewhat realized that my best role in that was to almost like take a step back and just try to lessen the burden for anyone around me so what i mean by that since fourth grade is all right you know i’m good i’m gonna ride my bike i’ll get to school i’ll get to my practice and i’ll get to games i’ll figure stuff out oh mom’s gonna be home late from work today i’m gonna make dinner for the family i’m gonna do this i’m gonna step oh i see this is going on let me go see how i can be of service to the people who i’m closest with yeah it sounds like more so than stepping back you stepped up i mean like you said you grew up in that moment you had you had to take charge well in hindsight as an adult now i i realized more often than not for someone to be able to step up they need to actually step back to assess what’s going on well um because what happened with me in new mexico and i think one of the reasons that a lot of the animosity ended up spurning over to paradise was i try to fully step up before really understanding the landscape of of what the situation was in new mexico i was in my own head and i was so worked up to try to be like all right well this is my journey i did not account for wait there’s 31 other people here on this journey going through that same exact thing so what i probably most reckless of is is coming in with a direct just this is my journey more so than this is a collective shared experience that’s going to end with with a lot of people trying to find love whether that’s with the bachelorette with themselves like you need to make sure that you cherish those just as much as you cherish anything else all right and thomas very well said huh thomas what did your family think about you going on the show and how do they see the way you know you’re being portrayed and what not like how did they feel about that it was tough um like my mom couldn’t watch the season of bachelorette like my mom flat out she couldn’t watch it my family couldn’t watch it i didn’t watch it it was something i don’t necessarily believe in holding on to just negative components of what other people are saying because for me at the end of the day it’s what someone says about somebody else says more about the person saying those things than an actual person and one of the things that i’m grateful for in paradise is we saw that firsthand and the people on that beach and the collective they listened and they acknowledged where people’s viewpoints were coming from yet they still took the time to get to know me for me and that was something that was that was one of my biggest blessings from there my grandma she taught me earlier earlier on in life that if you really want to see someone’s character and you really want to see what someone’s made of put them through adversity put them through distress and the reason why i don’t have any qualms about going through the journey that i went through is you both could attack no one would want to be me like going through what happened in new mexico you don’t want to be in that position you don’t want to be the guy that people don’t like and going through all that it’s just i feel that i stayed level-headed i didn’t call anyone out of name i showed respect even when things were coming at me just very very directly and i can say that i’m proud of the way that although it didn’t end the way anyone really anticipated i’m proud the way that things were handled and all i continue to do is try to share love with the guys and share on their growth journey so oh you me you did the upstanding thing right if someone of your stature 66 would do you know just stand back you know be respectful not call someone out of their name and that’s their character at that point in time
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EXCLUSIVE: Thomas Shares Details About His Upbringing and Mental Health Journey | Talking It Out

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